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What would you rather be right or wrong?

We can say whatever we want here but lets face it most of us feel the need to be right more than we like to be wrong.  But the question must be asked, “Why do we feel a since of lost when we are wrong?

Ever been around a know it all? How about a one upper? You know the kind of person that always has a story or experience that always up stages you and your story.

You know who they are right?

They may believe their opinions matter more than yours. Or they may be willing to declare an all-out  war if you disagree with them.

The need to be right is a lonely place to be. You close your mind to learning, growth and possibility. You miss out on opportunities.

And perhaps most importantly, you alienate yourself from other people. They avoid you. They don’t want to work with you. They don’t even want to be around you.

The need to be right creates walls that only humility can bring down.  The Pharisees and religious of Jesus’ day could never admit being wrong therefore they weren’t open to knowing more.  The God they said they served and loved stood before them in human form and instead of benefiting from this they decided that being right was more important than a relationship with God.  They missed out on having so much more just because they were not willing to let go of what little they thought they knew.  They needed to be right……and it cost them everything.

A place without God is a lonely place yet they chose that over a relationship with Jesus.

Their need to be right kept them from learning from the Master and they were stuck at No instead of know.

They saw Jesus as a distraction and missed the opportunity that He brought to this Earth.

They gave up, learning, Growth, and endless possibility in exchange to be right.

How many times do we become stuck at “No” and we never move into knowing more simply because we don’t see that being wrong benefits us sometimes more than being right?

We argue with friends and even our spouses due to the fact that they are wrong and we are right. And we will argue a point to win even if that makes the people we care about the most lose in the end.  How can we love people and want to see them lose or prove them wrong?

A big difference maker in my marriage came when I realized this was me.  Why did I need to be right at her expense? My wife has the right to her thoughts and opinions even if I don’t agree with them.  So many times I won the battle but ultimately lost the war. I had to ask myself do I want to win or do I want the results I am after.  The results I want is a healthy marriage full of love, respect, honor, laughter, sharing, caring, intimacy, and security. That is truly winning. How many times have I sought to be right and forfeited winning? because honestly if she doesn’t win…….I don’t either.  She is my partner, best friend, and my teammate.  We are on the same team and sometimes I don’t like to admit it but I learn more from her than I ever tell her.

Recently my wife and I were in a discussion that could go nowhere good. I walked over to her right in the middle of it, gave her a hug and said, “I am sorry.” She asked me “For what?” My reply was simple, “For my need to be right.”

Pride destroys, builds up walls and kills intimacy.

Next time you are in a discussion with someone ask yourself this question, “Do I want to be right or do I want the results I am after?’ The need to be right is a lonely place.

Give up your need to be right. Besides you know your wife is probably right any way.

Brothers In Arms,

Bill Davis


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Hey everyone-

This is a long email with a ton of information, I apologize in advance for that – there is just a lot to cover.

The meeting last night was great. We began by talking through the Dec. 13th Club. It was good to get some feedback (most of which seemed to indicate that kids had a lot of fun and are anxious for the next club). I don’t know if I got to personally thank all of you – it really was great because of you.

The next club is going to be on Friday, Jan 21st at Golden Skate World. We decided against running club at Chancellor Middle School due to some of restrictions it would have placed on us. In the end, we feel that Golden Skate will be better for us in this season. If you have more questions about that decision, please feel free to get in touch with me. Club will run from 5:00 until 6:00 that evening and after that we will have snacks and drinks from 6:00 through 6:30 (if you are talking with parents who are planning on dropping their kids off and then pick them up, 6:30 is the best time to come get them, but if they have to, they could come as early as 6:00). One of the exciting things about continuing to run club at Golden Skate is the fact that on Fridays, they have their big TGIF teen night. The whole building (skating and gym side) are open to kids. It runs from 7:00 through 11:00 and costs $10 (including skate rental). Our thought is that kids can come for club, and if they want to, they can stay for the TGIF night. We will wait with them until it begins and will stick around for some of the skating and fun. The TGIF night is not Wyldlife, but I think the owners of Golden skate do a good job of providing a fun and safe environment for kids – and they say a lot of middle school kids show up on Fridays. It gives kids the opportunity to go if they want (or go home if they want), and it potentially gives parents the whole night (from 5:00 until 11:00) perhaps… (can anyone say date night?).

The Next Club will be Friday, February 4th with all the same details.

We need some roles for both of those events filled. We need 5 people to help with drinks and 5 people to help with snacks. Please email me back if you can help. Having seen how rides worked out last club (very well – thank you all so much), I don’t know if we need a lot of people to “sign up” for rides but just that everyone take some level of willing responsibility just in case a kid needs one there or home (I think most kids will be taken care of by their parents). We need the same help for the Feb 4th club. Let me know.

Winter Weekend (Feb. 11-13) is coming and we need to push for collecting forms (I am attaching a PDF of the form with this – I added the address and some other information – as well as posting it on the Facebook Page as a picture) and money ($125) for kids who are going so we can begin organizing necessary transportation. That being said, we are also still need more drivers. Right now we have room for 17 kids. I would love to have enough room for at least 35 which means 4-5 more drivers committed. Please let me know if you can (the trip is about 3 hours one way near Lexington, and I will get you directions if you are taking kids). Wyldlife will be able to help with gas costs for those who need it. If you are thinking you might want to do this, you could also go as an Adult Guest (you get put up in nice accommodations apart from the kids in a beautiful setting, are fed well, and get to experience Wyldlife firsthand). The cost of that is $75 per adult. Right now I have three people signed up from Fredericksburg. Again, let me know as soon as you can.

Lastly (sorry this email is so long), I will be out of town and in Colorado for a mandatory Young Life training from the end of this week until the 20th. I should have cell service (pray for that) but will definitely have email. Communication could be a little slower, but I have not dropped off the end of the earth.

Thank you all so much for everything, I am so excited about this semester.


NEW MEETING TIME: 6:00 P.M. TO 8:00 P.M.


Hello Everyone,

Just wanted to remind everyone that we are meeting on Sunday from 6:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. at Ragan’s house (13027 Dahlia Lane, Fredericksburg, VA 22407).  See below for a link to Bing Maps.

If you want snacks and drinks, please bring something. 

Snacks and Drinks – If you want something to snack on during the meeting, feel free to bring something.  We still have soda left from last weeks meeting so we don’t need to bring any more.  Please remember you don’t have to bring in anything if you don’t want to.  Nothing says we have to have drinks and snacks at the meeting.  It’s totally up to you. 

I hope to see you all. 

Heart and Soul,
Lifepoint Teens
Paradigm Leaders

   Conan Moad (Home) 540-898-6508, (Cellular) 202-834-2697
   Ragan Bolick (Home) 703-298-2915

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It shouldn’t be to bad finding Ragan’s house.  Go as if you are going to church but instead of turning into Riverbend….you keep going to the right at that fork in the road and proceed past the bus lot.  Less than a mile down is Dahlia Lane on the left….that’s Ragan’s street.  Her house is all the way down on the right…sitting on the corner.

Here is a link to Bing Maps. (Just plug in your address for directions.)

OR you can follow the directions below.

Directions from Riverbend High School: (CHURCH)

Route: 1.4 miles, 4 min

A.  Riverbend High School

12301 Spotswood Furnace Rd, Fredericksburg, VA

  1. Depart Spotswood Furnace Rd toward Steckler Way0.2 mi
  2. Bear right onto Mill Rd1.1 mi
  3. Turn left onto Dahlia Ln0.1 mi
  4. Arrive at 13027 Dahlia Ln, Fredericksburg, VA 22407-2262 on the right. The last intersection is Mill Rd.  If you reach Mazzen Ct, you’ve gone too far

B.  13027 Dahlia Ln, Fredericksburg, VA 22407-2262

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